1. What do you enjoy most about being a Dad? Least? What was one of the hardest moments you had being a father and why was it hard? Do you think fathers now have it easier or harder?
BEST: Everything. I learn a lot from my kids - patience, unconditional love, trust. When you become a father, you are automatically a role model, or at least you want to be one since you're going to shape your children's lives with your actions.
LEAST: I don't like the constant worrying coupled with the fact that I have to be calm and collected in front of my kids, even if I'm *panicking deep inside.
HARDEST: The hardest part about being a dad is that even if you're wired to protect and shield your kids from the bad things in life (bullying, trials, failure, disappointment), but you have to take a step back and allow them to experience this on their own, give them the chance to figure out on their own how to enjoy the wins in life and how to weather and rise from the failures. It's hard accepting that you cannot protect them forever, but the biggest role of a parent is teaching them to do this for themselves.
- Many people will say fathers now have it harder because they're more hands-on. I think fatherhood is different now as compared to before, maybe in our parents' time, the responsibility of the father was to be the breadwinner of the family. Nowadays, both parents can be breadwinners, both parents can be more hands-on. Before, fathers might not have had enough time with their kids as they might have wanted to because they were too busy with work. Now, because of the internet, social media and technology, parents have the option of working away from a desk, but simultaneously, kids are more exposed to information, good and bad, so closer supervisor is needed. For me, each generation of parents faced different situations, so you can't say which generation had it easier or harder.
2. For you what is the most important role of being a father?
Just being there for your kids, kids today are very smart and independent, for them, just knowing that they can reach out to their dads anytime they want help or advice, for me is the most important role of a dad.
Are there things you wish you had done differently as a father?
I wish I became a father sooner.
What traditions did your father pass on to you that you passed on to your children?
3. Being the CEO of Wee Community DeveloPERs, Inc. and Director of W Group, Inc., how are you able to strike a balance between family time and work?
The reason I put up my own company is so I can spend as much time with my family. I own my company, my company doesn't own me. Family always comes first, whether it be as simple as taking the kids to school or having a snack with my kids, the family is always the priority. I have very able partners and managers that can run the business, plus I can always have Skype meetings and anyone from the office can just call me anytime. My measure of success is the quantity and quality of time I spend with my family, I'm just lucky that the business is doing good as well with this unorthodox setup, I'm the only person in my office that doesn't have a desk.
4. What are the top three values you would want to impart to your children?
INTEGRITY - mean what you say and protect your good name
GRIT - there's nothing you can't do if you try hard enough
WORKING SMART - there are a million ways to skin a cat, choose the fastest and most efficient way
How do you ensure that they learn it?
Through example and through cool stories that they will remember. I still remember the cool stories my mom and dad would tell us when we were growing up
5. What do you want to make sure that your children will remember about you?
That I love their mom. She's a wonderful woman and an amazing mom, which is a situation that allows me to just focus on trying to be the best father I can be to my kids. I also want my kids to know that I love them forever and unconditionally.
What's the best memory that you had with your kids?
The first time I saw them and carried them.
6. Advice for young fathers or future fathers?
Being a parent is hard, it's the hardest job in the world, but it's also the most fulfilling. At the end of the day, the values you impart and the time you spent with your kids is the legacy you leave behind in this world. Make it count